The Essence of Process Coaching

The perceptual tools and inner healing practices offered in Process Coaching all boil down to one essential secret—to be all of who we truly are and have all of what we really want in life, we want to find and heal the lost parts of ourselves, down to the deepest layers of our Being. We call this process 'healing to wholeness.'


The simple secret of healing to wholeness is to love everything about yourself, and especially love all of what you feel, no matter what that is. Willingly joining our conscious selves with our feeling selves in every moment we can—is the ongoing process of healing to wholeness and having all of what we truly desire. And using these tools and perspectives can make this a much easier journey than you may have thought possible.


It's great to have the things we want in life like loving relationships, meaningful work, a nice home, a good car, etc. These things come naturally to us as we move more and more into living the kind of life we truly desire. However, it's only by being present in the moment, free of conditioning that we can experience minute-by-minute, day-by-day joyous living of life, deep fulfillment and success. What good is it to have a nice home or car, for instance, and not feel good about myself?

If you are loving yourself and all of your feelings as they arise, and you always do just what you want to do, you are already doing this work. However, this kind of self-love has not been so easy. Powerful and compelling conditioning to the contrary has been operating below conscious awareness in humanity since the beginning of our time here on Earth. Each generation has subsequently updated the programming against loving ourselves and our feelings—as if the limitations the conditioning it has imposed were true and right.

The thrust of this work is developing and nurturing yourself as the 'Healer' who undoes the deep conditioning that's been keeping us from realizing our true human greatness and who finds and brings into wholeness the lost and previously discarded sensate, feeling parts of self. The articles on this website can serve as a guide on your journey, including helping you find the very best guidance for your own healing and manifesting—the guidance that is inside of you now, waiting to be asked.

It's my hope that what we've developed in Process Coaching will be useful to you as a point of departure in developing your own approach. The tools and perspectives we've discovered and honed in practice can enable you to effectively disregard the old, limiting conditioning and establish a new, joyously loving and powerful identity as the Healer of yourself. I'm very grateful that the other collaborators and I can share them with you now.

John Pateros


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